Living Life in a Fish Bowl!

Gloria’s take on life.

what’s the big deal?

How does it make you feel when you are sharing something that is going on in your life and the other person (either verbally or non-verbally) indicates ‘what’s the big deal?’   I don’t know about you, but that really doesn’t make me feel loved.

Sadly, I have stopped counting the number of times that people have said to me (in the middle of sharing whatever is going on in their life at the time)  “I know this really isn’t a big deal…”   yet what they are facing is big,  others had just minimized it.  Therefore, the person is almost apologetic for sharing her burden.

News flash Christians –  We are called to bear one another’s burdens.  (Gal 6:2) We are called to encourage one another. (1 Thes 5:11)

Jesus, who is our example, was moved with compassion.

1 Cor 2:16 tells us we have the mind of Christ.

We are called to love.  Lack of compassion is not love.

 “Let me give you a new command:
Love one another. In the same way I loved you, you love one another.
This is how everyone will recognize that you are my disciples—
when they see the love you have for each other.” John 13:34-35 (MSG)



“What’s the big deal?”

Yes, I know that things could always be worse.  The old saying “show me a man without shoes and I will show you a man without feet.”  But when did compassion for the man without shoes go out the window and be replaced with  ‘no big deal?’

Here’s a bit of truth – maybe it isn’t a big deal to you because:

you are not invested in it
it isn’t happening to you or someone you love
it doesn’t inconvenience you
maybe you really don’t care (that is a whole other topic)
it isn’t a problem for you
maybe you lack compassion
you aren’t really listening because you think you know what is going on
or maybe you just aren’t thinking about how you are coming across?

There is a difference between a whiner/complainer and someone who  needs encouragement because  the changes that come up have a higher price tag than you may comprehend.  Instead of treating the other person like it is no big deal, show a little compassion and offer some encouragement.

I am on a mission to encourage. At the heart of my Savior is compassion. I don’t see where He ever dismissed or implied ‘what’s the big deal’ to someone who was hurting.

What do your actions/words reveal about your mission?

“Summing up:
Be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, be humble.
That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation.
No sharp-tongued sarcasm.
Instead, bless—that’s your job, to bless.
You’ll be a blessing and also get a blessing.” 1 peter 3:8-12

til next time


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November 25, 2015 - Posted by | ministry, pastor, Pastor's wife, relationships, spiritual reflections | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

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